When people are rude, dishonest, mean, what have you, I find it easier to kill them with kindness. I find that I don’t have the time to hold malice in my heart, holding a grudge is just a focus on the past. The past cannot be changed, so why focus on it. So I focus on the moment.

Focusing on the moment allows me to easily deal with other people, it better equips me to deal with the people involved in that moment. People’s negativity generally comes from a lack of self understanding, or a wanting in their own lives, as you begin to understand this, you can begin to characterize people for who they are, you will find yourself less concerned with what they think of you, and only concerned with the moment.

I find myself often laughing at people’s negativity, be it toward me, or others.

A friend of mine Cindi has come to this realization as well. She pointed this quote out to me, and I wanted to share it:

Let others lead small lives. Let others argue over small things, let them complain over what might have been, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, let them be discouraged, let them be revengeful & vindictive, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, let them become materialistic… & empty, but not you. Let others become ungrateful! Let others give up, but not you! ~ Jim Lafray

Remember, only you can allow others to bother you, or hurt you.

NOW.

Yes, now. Focusing on now is the secret to reaching your goals.

Your goals are nothing more than a navigational beacon. You can’t reach your goals by obsessing on them, constantly focusing on them. Focusing on your goals is doing nothing more than focusing the mind on the future. You can’t control the future, you can’t make the future happen, it doesn’t exist. The only way you can reach the future is through right now. Through this very moment. The moment you are reading this blog post you are manifesting the future, your future.

The past has nothing to do with your goals. The past has already happened, it can’t be changed.

The only place you can focus your mind on in order to reach your goals is right now. If you allow yourself to put this very moment in the forefront of your doings, and your focus, each moment will step you toward your goal. You can’t say yes to right now while focusing on the future.

So what are you doing right now? Does it coincide with your goal? If it doesn’t then you might want to consider doing something different, right now.

** UPDATE ** Slightly disappointed for some reason the Wordbooker plugin isn’t working. I will have to smack away at it maybe tomorrow.

** UPDATE ** Steve Atty, the author of the Wordbooker plugin does a fantastic job of supporting his code, very quick to reply, and easy to work with, and loves fixing bugs in his code. I don’t believe this was a code issue, more of a Facebook permissions issue, but I thank him truly for his support in fixing this, and if you have a Wordpress blog, and a fan page, or Facebook profile, I can’t recommend this plug in enough!!

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• Rusted Root – Cat Turned Blue
• Stephen Kellogg & the Sixers – Sweetest Goodbye
• State Radio – Gunship Politico
• Carbon Leaf – Paloma
• The String Cheese Incident – Sometimes a River
• Third Eye Blind – London

• Eckhart Tolle – Practicing the Power of Now: Essential Teachings, Meditations, and Exercises from the Power of Now (Unabridged) Part 1 of 2
• Bon Jovi – Lost Highway
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• Denis Leary – Voices In My Head
• Denis Leary – Drugs
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• Denis Leary – Traditional Irish Folk Song
• Denis Leary – Rehab
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• Denis Leary – Smoke
• Denis Leary – The Downtrodden Song

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• Toad the Wet Sprocket – Come Down
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• Toad the Wet Sprocket – Stupid
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• Toad the Wet Sprocket – Fall Down
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• Toad the Wet Sprocket – Listen
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• Toad the Wet Sprocket – I Will Not Take These Things for Granted
• Toad the Wet Sprocket – All I Want (remix)
• Toad the Wet Sprocket – Eyes Open Wide
• Toad the Wet Sprocket – Something’s Always Wrong (edit)

This is a great reminder too, that we as American’s have the rights and freedoms to donate to causes regardless of which cause. Donate to Haiti, go help in the gulf coast region, give time at homeless shelters, help a friend who is ill.

We as a group of Americans can help together, home, and abroad. We have the right and freedom to do so as we choose.

I hope this video inspires many of you like it has me.

I want to thank each and everyone of you who have helped someone else. 1 person can make a big difference in every situation.